Losing Someone So Special

Sunday, October 9, 2016

I met Ebony many years ago, when I first started my journey as a photographer. She was one of my models. When I met Ebony to me she was very soft spoken. Her parents and her decided to share their journey of losing a son and a brother in a tragic car accident. Mr. Tony seemed very quiet and Mrs. Sandra personality reminded me of my own mother, very sweet and soft spoken just like Ebony. The interview made me get very emotional inside. I thank God for helping me keep it together. The interview became emotional, as they shared their heart break and laughter of their time with Tony Jr.

R.I.P Tony Jr. January 10, 1988- June 6, 2009

Me: How long have you all been married and how many kids do you have?
Mr.Tony and Mrs. Sandra: 25 years. We have 3 kids, but one is deceased.

Me: How did you all meet?
Mr.Tony: One of my best friends were dating her sister. She tried to give me a hard time.

Me: Please give advice for 1st years married couple? 
Mrs. Sandra: Trust and put God first. Be sure to have good communication.

Mr. Tony: Keep your business inside your home.

Me: Tell me about your wedding: 
Mr. Tony: We actually got married at Sandra's mom house

Me: Tell me a little about your kids.
Mrs. Sandra: She is very beautiful, she is straight to the point, and please don't make her mad. (She laughed.)
Mr. Tony: I think she is a very smart young lady. Our 2nd child is Tony Jr., he had the biggest heart. He was loving. Everybody he came in contact with him loved him. He was hit and killed by an 18 wheeler, he was just turning 21 years old. ( Mrs. Sandra begins to cry). Tristen is our third child. He is hardheaded, daredevil and risky.

Me: What advice can you give to parents who have lost a child? 
Mr.Tony: What gives me a comfort, is God gave His only child. It took a long to get over, but I know God will not put no more on you than you can handle.

Mrs. Sandra: Trust God and take one day at a time. It is a day by day process. It has been 4 years and it is still hard for me at times.

Me: The day he died how did you find out.
Mr. Tony: I had spoken to him on the phone before the accident. I had told him to be careful and I love him. Got a call from my wife that he had been in an accident and that he had died.

Mrs. Sandra: I was the last one to talk to him. I was at work and couldn't answer the phone. I finally called back and that is when my dad had told me had happen.

Ebony: I was at work, and when I went on break I saw my cousin had text and ask have I talked to him, and that is when he told me. My aunt came running into my job. I went blank. 

Me: Mrs. Sandra as a mother how did this make you feel?
Mrs. Sandra: I was really hurt. I love all my kids but he was my baby. I was mad at God. He was a sick little child. 

Me: As a sister to Tony Jr. how did it make you feel?
I felt lost and alone. We were really close.

Me: I remember when we met you were telling me something about he told you not cut your hair. 

Ebony: I wanted to be a model and start going to Atlanta. He told me don't cut my hair. When he died, I felt there was a weight on me, so I cut my hair.

Me :If he was here today, what would you tell him?
Mr. Tony and Mrs. Sandra: I love you.
Ebony: I love you and I am finally married. He told me I would never get married, because I was spoil.

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