You Can't Tell People How To Grieve Or How Long

Tuesday, March 10, 2020

Written By: Felecia Causey Photography By: Felecia Causey Model: Tina Sankey with her son's photo People deal with different things in different ways. You may have one person go into depression after the loss of a loved one or a heartbreak and then you may have another who will party until the lights go out.  No one can explain heartache, grief, a loss, or disappointment to you. I am sure many people will tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel. What many don't realize is even though they may have suffered any of these, you can’t judge someone because they don’t get through things the way you may do.  You can’t put a time frame on a person that is hurting.

As for myself when I am hurting, I choose to be alone and cope with my problems in my own space, and my own time.  Although some may need or choose to be in the company of others why they face heartache or going through a rough patch in their life.

Many friends and family have found themselves getting their feelings hurt as a result of trying to fix a person's emotions.  There is no set formula on how you fix a person while they are grieving.  Although they have the best intention at heart, you can’t help them through your own ideas and beliefs.

People feel uncomfortable being around someone that is mourning or hurt.  They are afraid they may say the wrong things or not know what to say at all.

You may not understand why a person still hangs on to a person from a failed relationship or why a mom still mourns for her deceased child, after many years has passed. There is no forgetting someone that meant a lot to a person.  The hurt doesn't have a time frame and you can’t rush others' healing process.

I’m sure some are asking how may I be there for someone who is in mourning or heartbroken? Just be an open ear.

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